Worship styles...

What makes worship worship? How do you know when worship has worked? Is there an ideal worship somewhere to which we all aspire?
Or is worship essentially a relationship, a relationship where somehow God connects with us in large ways and in small, in profound, life changing transformation, and in small, practical, pragmatic ways.
We watched "Up" last night. One of the layers was the nature of relationship, as an old man came to terms with the loss of his wife. Part of his grief was around the fact they never went on the Big Adventure they had planned as a young courting couple.
As it turned out, it was the small shared moments when nothing much happened that turned out to be the great big adventure, a lifetime of memories that his wife captured in photo's and put in an album for him that he discovered much later. In other words, she felt their life together was the Big Adventure, and this released him to go on to the next stage of life, and enabled him to form new relationships.
So, what does that mean for our questions about worship?
I am hearing a wide spread dissatisfaction with worship from all sorts of people. Part of that dissatisfaction is like when my blood sugar is so low I can't make good decisions. My kids do this too - they are so hungry they don't know what they want and everything you suggest doesn't suit. We've discovered that you just have to Eat Something! Is it the same with worship? When your soul is starving, you just have to do something that connects you with God.
Does our worship connect people with God or does it get in the way?
Can we help people to craft a lifetime of small moments with God, help them to name them as God moments, like taking photos and posting them in an album. Is that what liturgy is? Taking a photo of a God moment? As long as we see it as a snap shot, not a cage...
The trouble is, much of our Christian literature is about Big Adventures with God, sweep you off your feet stuff that is part and parcel of the Christian life, but not the whole story by any means. Is it liberating to think about finding ways to help people recognise and name God moments, rather than asking them to see church corporate worship as the start and finish of worship.
I don't mean to suggest that all of life is worship. Baptising all human activity as worship is neither helpful or truthful. But I am suggesting that God moments are more common than we might dare to imagine. Maybe this one is for you?